Burns-Samuel: Tinder Sex Game

List of stereotypes for both men and women:

Male: “Dad bod”= unfit, has a  potbelly
“fuckboy”= guy who only wants sex
competitive = see how many girls they can sleep with
nonchalant = care free
manipulative = have great “text game”
gives full disclosure= doesn’t want a relationship
whore= “racking up girls”, “hit it and quit it”
misogynists= misogynists
Women: easy = gives it up
want too much= relationships
cares too much
clingy= guy is “stuck in one lane”
trophies= hottest chick
whore= go from guy to guy
“Tinderellas” = the Cinderella’s of Tinder
not a priority= men only see them as mates

 

The impact of dating apps on the stereotypes of both men and women just heightens them in a way that you would only believe the stereotypes and not look past them. The initial purpose of dating apps where specifically for that. Dating. But since having sex is much easier than getting into a relationship, the purpose of the apps have changed drastically. Apps like tinder, hinge, okcupid and others have become sex sites and not dating sites. These apps are used for how many people you can have sex with in a week. Some might argue and say a day but the sole purpose of swiping right or left is to see who you can hit. One huge impact these apps have had was making the sex scene just about numbers and taking all courtship away.

The stereotypes have probably gotten worse based on the article (link at bottom) but nonetheless this isn’t the case for all males and females. The bad entities always outshine the good.

As far as who’s to blame is an all or nothing type question to me. You can’t blame one party and not the other two. (Male, female or mainstream media) All parties play into this with just about everything they’ve got. Males go for the numbers and the hottest, but so do females and the media just hypes up the situation to the point where it’s going to be an everlasting circle that can’t be broken. Although, someone had to be first at it right? That’s also me asking which was first, the chicken or the egg? There’s no way for me to figure that out but I’m sure some scholars of the evolution of sex would love to place the blame on either or.

Even though all parties play a huge role into the stereotypes set above and many more that others have come up with, the only way to stop the negativity and mindless sex is for our generation to put down their phones and have a real conversation with someone they meet at a random place like the store or a bar (bars only count if you’re not wasted). But facing the facts, that’s never going to happen. Guys are still going to want the hottest girl on Tinder and girls are going to want to hottest guy on Tinder.

Swipe right!

http://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2015/08/tinder-hook-up-culture-end-of-dating  fair warning, it’s pretty lengthy.

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Lochu: Tinder stereotypes

 

Credit: recode.net

Credit: recode.net

Tinder understands that encounter was too time on traditional dating sites. The promise of being able to show his interest in a person is required. In a slip of the finger, you can scroll through the profiles in a touchdown, you can love a person. It’s simple, fast, effective. The setup menu is simple. There are not ten thousand search criteria. Just three: sex, age group and geographic area. The pitfall of this virtual accessibility to men and women is that we spend more time that should happen in reality to meet them. The virtual overrides reality and uproot you from the creation of basic social ties, which are the basis of the meeting and seduction.
This application reinforces somehow stereotypes of women, but also sterotypes of men. Once again, only outside appearance of a woman count. Most men who are on Tinder will “swipe to the right” if the profile picture of a woman is sexy, showing part of her body, ect. Most of these men are also seeking to have sex only with them, and are not for any serious relationship with a woman. This reinforces the stereotype that the woman is an object rather than a person. Men are proud to talk about the number of girl with whom they have had sex. However if girls talk about it, they would be judged. Therfore, girls who are on this application are also people who seek to have sex most of the time. Many will post sexy profil pictures for the sole purpose of attracting a maximum of men, knowing that this is what attracts them most. But again, these women will be judge quickly, while a man would surely not.

It also reinforce the stereotype that men are in competition, and under pressure. The pressure of who will sleep with the best and hottest girl, and with a certain number. Some guys might feel that they have to be on this app because of this pressure, as girls feel that they have to put sexy pictures because this is how they have to attract guys. Therefore, as both men and women think but won’t assume at first sometimes, most of them are not here for a serious relationship.

ASSIGNMENT for Friday 11/13/15

11/12/15

Hi, Women in the Media students,

As we won’t be having a physical class today (11/13/15), let’s read and blog here on Rowdy, Uppity and Sometimes Well-Behaved.

Please read the September 2015 story in Vanity Fair magazine called “Tinder is the Night” in the print edition.  Here is the URL:

http://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2015/08/tinder-hook-up-culture-end-of-dating

Please read at least to the end of the section entitled: “Hit It or Quit It.”

First, in your blog, make a list of words, phrases, symbols etc. that indicate stereotypes of both men and women. List at least 10 for each gender. For example:

Male: “Dad Bod”=saggy, ugly, old (graf 1)

Female: “rack up 100″=women are no more than a game of pool, men rack them up

Then answer these question in an essay of 300-500 words: What is the impact of dating apps such as Tinder on male and female stereotypes?  Whose “fault” is it — men, women or the media?  Why?

Really looking forward to reading what you find and think.

Cheers, S. Earley